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When I was twenty-two, I was working as a strategist at a digital agency, and I went on a business trip to Miami to give a presentation to a major Fortune 500 client on our recommendations for the company's social media strategy. For weeks, I brainstormed ideas and slaved over creating the perfect PowerPoint deck for the meeting. The presentation, which I participated in with three more senior colleagues, went well. Afterward, as one of my colleagues and I waited for a taxi back to our hotel, my coworker, who was in her early thirties, congratulated me on a job well done and asked, "By the way, how old are you?" When I responded that I was twenty-two, her tone changed. She immediately squealed, "Oh my God, but you're such a baby! And they're letting you present to clients!"
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Whereas a minute ago, she had been impressed with my presentation and my composure in front of major clients, now, having found out my age, she suddenly could only see me as just another twenty-two-year-old: too young to be taking on such a level of responsibility at work. From that day on, no meeting was complete without her making reference to how I was "so young!"—regardless of how good a job I was doing.A year later, at twenty-three, I was at a new job, leading social media efforts for a cable TV channel. A colleague introduced me to another, older coworker, and said, "Nisha is our new social media manager. She sits in the office down the hall." The older coworker responded, "Oh yes, I walked by and saw you in there, and I was like, wow, I didn't know they started letting twelve-year-olds work here!"Welcome to the new age discrimination?Every woman knows this to be true: when you tell someone your age, you give them the power to decide how you're perceived. No matter your qualifications, people are predisposed to judge what you are really "worth" to them based on your age. The point of someone asking your age is almost always so that the asker can make a judgment about you based on that age—what other reason is there? Finding out your age is a way for people to size you up, put you in a specific box, determine their expectations for you, and decide whether you meet them sufficiently. For women, age unfairly becomes a standard by which society determines worth: Past a certain age, a woman is viewed as less important, less worthy of attention. Younger than a certain age, a woman is also viewed as less valuable, especially in the workplace—young women are typically viewed as too na?ve, too inexperienced. And many young women are often stuck longer than they'd like to be in internship or administrative roles because they allegedly lack the"experience" (which I've found is often just a code word for age and seniority) needed to move beyond entry level.
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For better or worse, the practice of women hiding their age is nothing new. Look at any number of movies and TV shows, and you'll see countless jokes about women and age, and countless female characters hiding and even lying about their age. In , Charlotte York declares on her thirty-sixth birthday: "I've thought about it, and I've decided I'm sticking at '35." She later adds, "Men are more interested in meeting 35-year-olds." In Judd Apatow's 2012 film This Is 40, Leslie Mann's character pretends she's turning thirty-nine and later gets caught lying about her birth year on paperwork at her doctor's office. In September 2013,
pointedly joked she was "embarrassed" to discover she was forty-two after a slew of ageist barbs were directed at her during a Comedy Central roast of James Franco: "Because it's personal, that is just so woman-based . . . . I feel like your joke is that I'm still alive. My crime is not dying."America's
tends to favor the young, and women of a certain age indisputably face unfair biases, particularly in the workforce where some 65 percent of boomer workers report facing age discrimination, and a recent case affecting workers over forty went all the way to the Supreme Court. More magazine reported in 2008 that older women were filing more age discrimination complaints with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) than ever before. Earlier in 2013 in Salon, writer Tira Hirpaz summed up what it felt like to be an over-fifty woman in the eyes of society: "If you want to make a person invisible, just put them in the shoes of an over-fifty woman and abracadabra, watch them disappear."And while I'm still in my twenties—and it's hard to garner a lot of sympathy for being young in a world that places a premium on youth— I never, ever tell anyone my age if I can avoid it.This piece was excerpted from
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Why Would I Ever
why would i ever why would i ever
究竟为什么
why would i ever think of leaving you
为什么我要考虑是否要离你而去呢
why would i ever why would i ever
究竟为什么
why would i ever think of leaving you
为什么我要考虑是否要离你而去呢
wait a minute baby
等一会 宝贝
tell me what's up lately
告诉我最近你怎么样
i been knowin you too long
我们认识很久了
why you hidin something
你为什么要掩饰一些事情
thought we was through with frontin
认为我们已经结束
i can tell that something's wrong how could tell
我看得出有些不对劲
how could you even think that
你怎么会那么想呢
i want let him to go back
我得不到你的支持
its meanin youre against the world
你和我不顾别人的反对
no matter where we will go though
不管我们经历了什么
i am always rough it to
我会一直和你在一起 和你共同努力
a promise has been gone oh..oh
我向你保证我会成为你的女人
why would i ever
why would i ever
究竟为什么
why would i ever think of leaving you somebody
为什么我要考虑是否要离你而去呢
why would i ever
究竟为什么
baby i'd never
宝贝 我决不会那么做
cuz i just wouldn't know how to get through
因为我不知道怎么才能熬过没有你的生活
somebody say
有个声音在说
cuz you put together every piece of me
因为是你将支离破碎的我拼凑完整
and baby you…you know exactly what i need to be
宝贝 你清楚知道我要成为什么样的人
talk to me
和我好好谈谈吧
why would i ever why would i ever
究竟为什么 究竟为什么
why would i ever think of leaving you
为什么我要考虑是否要离你而去呢
wait a minute hold up
等一等 保持平静
just said when you rolled up
我说当你出现在我面前
you was yellin off the chain
失控地大叫的时候
get mad when i can't make time
当我无法腾出时间陪你的时候 你就会很生气
should known that i'm on my grind
早该知道我也在努力啊
babe you know it's all in your brain
宝贝 你知道这都是你的想法
now we been through some problems
现在我们遇到了一些问题
trust me we can solve them
相信我 我们可以解决我们之间的问题
we got too much in it to lose
我们失去的太多了
you've always been my best friend
你一直都是我最好的朋友
stop placin your bets when
不要再打赌了
baby i not leaving you
宝贝 我不会离开你
why would i ever
why would i ever
究竟为什么
why would i ever think of leaving you somebody
为什么我要考虑是否要离你而去呢
why would i ever
究竟为什么
baby i'd never
宝贝 我决不会那么做
cuz i just wouldn't know how to get through
因为我不知道怎么才能熬过没有你的生活
somebody say
有个声音在说
cuz you put together every piece of me
因为是你将支离破碎的我拼凑完整
and baby you…you know exactly what i need to be
宝贝 你清楚知道我要成为什么样的人
talk to me
和我好好谈谈吧
why would i ever why would i ever
究竟为什么 究竟为什么
why would i ever think of leaving you
为什么我要考虑是否要离你而去呢
tell me why did you ever question
告诉我为什么你总爱问问题
question everything we stand for
什么都要问
between us we got that
have you seen us we got that love
你难道没看见我们俩 （我们拥有爱情）
why would i ever why would i ever
究竟为什么
why would i ever think of leaving you somebody
为什么我要考虑是否要离你而去呢
why would i ever
究竟为什么
baby i'd never
宝贝 我决不会那么做
cuz i just wouldn't know how to get through
因为我不知道怎么才能熬过没有你的生活
somebody say
有个声音在说
cuz you put together every piece of me
因为是你将支离破碎的我拼凑完整
and baby you…you know exactly what i need to be
宝贝 你清楚知道我要成为什么样的人
talk to me
和我好好谈谈吧
why would i ever why would i ever
究竟为什么 究竟为什么
why would i ever think of leaving you
为什么我要考虑是否要离你而去呢
i am not leavin you
我不会离开你的
i am not leavin you
我不会让你孤零零一个人
i wont leavinyou and go and go
我不会离你而去的
i am not leavin you
我不会离开你的
i am not leavin you
我不会让你孤零零一个人
maybe you know i love you
宝贝?你知道我爱你
why would i ever
究竟为什么
why would i ever
究竟为什么
why would i ever think of leaving you
为什么我要考虑是否要离你而去呢
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